Birth Order

It's really interesting to go through the same milestones with different children. It seems it's almost 'neater' and more exciting the second time around because you anticipate it more...maybe?

I know N has been a little more excited about learning to ride her bike, tie her shoes, read and today's biggie= having her first loose tooth because she's watched Val do all those things. Valla was excited, but she didn't have an older sibling constantly doing something right in front of her. Natalie greets each accomplishment with such pride and this morning when she discovered her 1st wiggly tooth one of the first things she said was, "I've GOT to go show Valla!"

I've always been very conscience of making things fair and equal between all my kids. If I was going to scrapbook a baby book for Valla, then I was committing myself to doing scrapbooks for every kid after her. Of course I know things can't, won't and shouldn't be the exact same for each and that different doesn't mean worse. (For the record, I haven't technically started L's baby scrapbook, but it's all planned out in my head!)

Lots has been written on the benefits and consequences of birth order, my 3 are no different than the norms. I am determined, like most moms, to make sure N doesn't feel less than and that she chooses her own path, not just what V choose. I'm thrilled L has the love and attention of 2 other people besides her mom and dad, but I will not let her become the forever baby who is spared hard work, decision making and leadership. Poor V just has to endure the brunt of my continued journey into uncharted territories of parenthood.... reminds me of the beauties carved on the front of old ships.

I definitely worry the most about the time, attention and parenting of my middle child, Miss Natalie Elizabeth. I've coined MCG = acts that are done to avoid or make up for middle child guilt.

I'm learning to relax and let them enjoy the benefits and endure the negatives of their spot in our family. And I'm still going to get L's baby album going...promise!

The first photo of Natalie's teeth
2/19/05

Fast forward 5 years to today...